Motherhood so white : a memoir of race, gender, and parenting in America /

by Austin, Nefertiti [author.].
Material type: materialTypeLabelBookPublisher: Naperville, Illinois : Sourcebooks, [2019]Description: 290 pages ; 24 cm.ISBN: 9781492679011; 1492679011.Subject(s): Austin, Nefertiti | African American mothers -- Biography | Adoptive parents -- United States -- Biography | African American families | African American women | Mother and child | Parenting | Single mothers | Adoption -- United States | Motherhood -- United States | Racism -- United States
Contents:
My adoption so black -- Mommie dearest, Daddy's dead -- Decision made -- Mommy lessons -- Other people's fears -- Graduating into motherhood -- His name is what? -- Motherhood so white -- In limbo -- Looking for diverse parenting literature in all the right places (and finding almost none) -- Turning one and other milestones -- The Obama season -- The wait is over: rituals and rites of passage -- Everybody has an opinion -- Got my sea legs -- Building my village -- Heroes -- August gets his wish -- Boy child in the promised land -- Bad mama jamas -- Epilogue -- Stories of parenting so black.
Summary: "In America, Mother = White. That's what Nefertiti, a single African American woman, discovered when she decided she wanted to adopt a Black baby boy out of the foster care system. Eager to finally join the motherhood ranks, Nefertiti was shocked when people started asking her why she wanted to adopt a 'crack baby' or said that she would never be able to raise a Black son on her own. She realized that American society saw motherhood through a white lens, and that there would be no easy understanding or acceptance of the kind of family she hoped to build. Motherhood So White is the story of Nefertiti's fight to create the family she always knew she was meant to have and the story of motherhood that all American families need now. In this unflinching account of her parenting journey, Nefertiti examines the history of adoption in the African American community, faces off against stereotypes of single, Black motherhood, and confronts the reality of raising children of color in racially charged, modern-day America. Honest, vulnerable, and uplifting, Motherhood So White reveals what Nefertiti knew all along - that the only requirement for a successful family is one raised with love."--Page [2] of cover.
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Enhanced descriptions from Syndetics:

<p>The story every mother in America needs to read. As featured on NPR and the TODAY Show. All moms have to deal with choosing baby names, potty training, finding your village, and answering your kid's tough questions, but if you are raising a Black child, you have to deal with a lot more than that. Especially if you're a single Black mom... and adopting.</p> <p>Nefertiti Austin shares her story of starting a family through adoption as a single Black woman. In this unflinching account of her parenting journey, Nefertiti examines the history of adoption in the African American community, faces off against stereotypes of single Black moms, and confronts the reality of what it looks like to raise children of color and answer their questions about racism in modern-day America.</p> <p>Honest, vulnerable, and uplifting, Motherhood So Whiteis a fantastic book for mothers who have read White Fragilityby Robin DiAngelo, Stamped from the Beginningby Ibram X. Kendi, Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?by Beverly Daniel Tatum, or other books about racism and want to see how these social issues play out in a very personal way for a single mom and her Black son.</p> <p>This great book club read explores social and cultural bias, gives a new perspective on a familiar experience, and sparks meaningful conversations about what it looks like for Black families in white America today.</p>

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"In America, Mother = White. That's what Nefertiti, a single African American woman, discovered when she decided she wanted to adopt a Black baby boy out of the foster care system. Eager to finally join the motherhood ranks, Nefertiti was shocked when people started asking her why she wanted to adopt a 'crack baby' or said that she would never be able to raise a Black son on her own. She realized that American society saw motherhood through a white lens, and that there would be no easy understanding or acceptance of the kind of family she hoped to build. Motherhood So White is the story of Nefertiti's fight to create the family she always knew she was meant to have and the story of motherhood that all American families need now. In this unflinching account of her parenting journey, Nefertiti examines the history of adoption in the African American community, faces off against stereotypes of single, Black motherhood, and confronts the reality of raising children of color in racially charged, modern-day America. Honest, vulnerable, and uplifting, Motherhood So White reveals what Nefertiti knew all along - that the only requirement for a successful family is one raised with love."--Page [2] of cover.

My adoption so black -- Mommie dearest, Daddy's dead -- Decision made -- Mommy lessons -- Other people's fears -- Graduating into motherhood -- His name is what? -- Motherhood so white -- In limbo -- Looking for diverse parenting literature in all the right places (and finding almost none) -- Turning one and other milestones -- The Obama season -- The wait is over: rituals and rites of passage -- Everybody has an opinion -- Got my sea legs -- Building my village -- Heroes -- August gets his wish -- Boy child in the promised land -- Bad mama jamas -- Epilogue -- Stories of parenting so black.

Table of contents provided by Syndetics

  • Prologue (p. 1)
  • My Adoption So Black (p. 11)
  • Mommie Dearest, Daddy's Dead (p. 37)
  • Decision Made (p. 51)
  • Mommy Lessons (p. 59)
  • Other People's Fears (p. 81)
  • Graduating into Motherhood (p. 89)
  • His Name Is What? (p. 103)
  • Motherhood So White (p. 111)
  • In Limbo (p. 121)
  • Looking for Diverse Parenting literature in All the Right Places (and Finding Almost None) (p. 129)
  • Turning One and Other Milestones (p. 133)
  • The Obama Season (p. 139)
  • Rituals and Rites of Passage (p. 151)
  • Everybody Has an Opinion (p. 157)
  • Got My Sea Legs (p. 167)
  • Building My Village (p. 173)
  • Heroes (p. 199)
  • August Gets His Wish (p. 203)
  • Boy Child in the Promised Land (p. 223)
  • Bad Mama Jamas (p. 229)
  • Epilogue (p. 237)
  • Stories of Parenting So Black (p. 241)
  • Selected Resources (p. 271)
  • Reading Group Guide (p. 277)
  • A Conversation with the Author (p. 281)
  • Acknowledgments (p. 285)
  • About the Author (p. 289)

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Library Journal Review

Austin, a single black mother of two adopted black children, begins her debut memoir with a lesson. One night, she changes up her son August's routine of play, reading, and bath time to attend a Black Lives Matter rally in Beverly Hills. For the author, it's a gathering of like-minded people to vent their frustrations and show solidarity. For her son, it's an education in social mores: he is black and male and will be seen by others as a threat or nuisance; he is also at risk of harsh treatment by law enforcement or society in general. Therefore, Austin uses the rally as a survival lesson in navigating the world. These issues, along with many others like them, are why the author wrote this eye-opening, trenchant book, which helps to bolster the scant literature for African American adoptive parents that Austin has pioneered by blogging for publications such as MUTHA magazine and the Huffington Post. VERDICT Austin's experiences, both positive and negative, are recounted in this fast-paced, heartwarming memoir of motherhood and adoption told through an African American lens. Essential for all libraries. [See Prepub Alert, 3/17/19.]--Leah Huey, Dekalb P.L., IL

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